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A Night In with Tom Rasmussen

A Night In with Tom Rasmussen

Save the date! You are cordially invited to re-examine the role of marriage in the 21st century for this incisive, witty, and moving event with Tom Rasmussen. Location: at the crossroads of the personal and the political.

The ‘stream and book’ package includes a unique ticket for the stream, and a copy of First Comes Love, worth £14.99, deliverable to any UK or international address. 

For one night only the event will initially be broadcast on 29th July 2021 at 18:30 UK time. It will be available to view up to a week after the event has ended and can be accessed Worldwide. If you live in a time zone that does not suit the initial broadcast time you can watch it at any point after the initial showing for one week.

If you have any questions, please email [email protected]

Dearest friends, loved ones, idols —

I’m not getting married, any time soon at least. And so, I have written a book about that decision: First Comes Love. About weddings, marriage, doubt, normality. In planning this wedding (book) I plundered the depths of class, taste, alternative romantic set ups, divorce and audiences. I thought about queer marriage and straight marriage; the legal and the (il)logical; the tradition and the resistance; marriage’s history and its present.

Please join me for this virtual event as I ask: what is the allure of an institution that is grounded in patriarchy and in elitism, and that invalidated all but one kind of love till quite recently? Why do so many of us fight against these social ills while also posting pictures of proposals on Instagram? Is it possible to be married while subverting the institution by doing it one's own way, or is marriage having the last laugh after all?

I hope to see you there.

With love, and confetti —

Tom xxx

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